Husband Insisted on Expensive Groceries, Then Blamed Me for Wasting His Money — My Payback Was Fierce
Dave thought I was the problem, spending his hard-earned money on frivolous things. What he didn’t realize was that his luxury tastes would be his undoing and I made sure he felt every penny of it.
I’ve always been the kind of woman who keeps her cool, someone who can handle anything with a level head. But even I have my limits. And last week? I hit mine, hard. This is the story of how I showed my husband, Dave, that respect and financial responsibility aren’t optional in our marriage.
To give you some context, Dave and I have been married for over five years. When we tied the knot, I had a steady job that I loved. But Dave insisted I quit. He works in finance, earning more than enough for both of us and told me there was no need for me to work.
“You’ll have more time to focus on the house, on us,” he’d said. I was in love — still am, really — and I thought he had a point. So I quit, keeping a small side hustle just for a bit of spending money of my own.
Now, here’s where things start to get tricky. You see, Dave has this thing for luxury. And when I say “thing,” I mean obsession. Especially when it comes to food. Gone were the days of regular grocery shopping. He didn’t want a normal steak anymore: he wanted Wagyu.
And not just any Wagyu, but A5-grade, flown in straight from Japan at $200 a pound. And it wasn’t just a pound or two. No, Dave needed five pounds for one of his fancy dinner parties. Five pounds of Wagyu. I’m not kidding.
But that was just the start. Last Monday, I went on our usual grocery run with his absurdly detailed list in hand. And, as if the Wagyu wasn’t enough, Dave had added even more ridiculous items to the list.
There was the white truffle oil, $100 for a tiny bottle. Then there was saffron, the world’s most expensive spice. He wanted that for a risotto; mind you, we’ve never made risotto in our lives, but suddenly it was essential.
A tiny jar of hand-harvested sea salt from the coast of Brittany — because apparently regular salt isn’t good enough — set us back $45.
The real kicker, though, was the Kopi Luwak coffee. You know, the kind where the beans are eaten and pooped out by a civet cat? Yeah, that one. It costs $600 per pound. Dave added that to the list like it was no big deal. And let’s not forget the imported French butter because, according to Dave, “American butter is tasteless.”
When I got to the checkout, the total came to $950. Nine hundred and fifty dollars for one week’s worth of groceries! And that’s just us and the dinner parties we host once in a while.
Normally, our bill sits around $850, which is already outrageous, but this? This was a whole new level of insanity.
When I got home, lugging those bags into the kitchen, Dave was already on his way to meet me. I sighed and told him the total, thinking maybe he’d realize how absurd it was. Instead, his face turned bright red. “Nine hundred and fifty dollars?” he barked. “What the hell, Sarah? You’re throwing my money away!”
I stared at him, blinking in disbelief. “Your money? Dave, this is all the stuff from your list. Do you even realize the A5 Wagyu alone was $1,000? I didn’t add anything extra, just the basics we need to actually eat.”
But Dave just rolled his eyes, crossing his arms over his chest. “You always find a way to waste it,” he muttered. “It’s like you don’t even care how hard I work for this paycheck.”
Now, I can usually handle Dave’s moods, but this? This was too much. My heart pounded as I stared at him, trying to keep my voice calm. “Wasting your money? Dave, do you realize the luxuries you’re demanding? We could have normal groceries and cut this bill in half. But no, you want the best of everything. And now you’re blaming me for it?”
He waved a hand dismissively, already turning away. “I don’t want to argue about it. Just… be more careful next time.”
That night, I couldn’t sleep. I lay there staring at the ceiling, fuming. Was this really how it was going to be? Me bending over backward to cater to his ridiculous tastes, only to get blamed for overspending? No. No more.
That’s when the idea hit me. If Dave wanted to accuse me of wasting his money, maybe it was time for him to understand just how much he was throwing away himself.
The next morning, I woke up with a plan. Dave wanted to play the “my money” card? Fine. I’d play along. But this time, on my terms.
I started by pulling out my old clothes and gadgets from storage: stuff I hadn’t used in years because, well, Dave insisted on “upgrading” everything after we got married.
“You did what?” he practically choked. “You’re making our friends bring food?”
I traded in my designer bags for the sturdy, worn purse I’d had for years. I swapped my expensive kitchen gadgets, like the KitchenAid mixer Dave had proudly bought me, for the old hand mixer I had stashed away in the back of a cupboard.
Even the car had to go. Instead of driving around in the luxury SUV Dave insisted we buy last year, I dusted off my old sedan and took it out for a spin.
When Dave noticed, he was puzzled. “Why aren’t you using the Prada bag I got you?” he asked one morning, his brow furrowing as I swung my old bag over my shoulder.
I shrugged, giving him a sweet smile. “Oh, I don’t want to waste your money, remember? I’m trying to be frugal, just like you said.”
He blinked at me, his mouth opening like he wanted to argue, but then he stopped. “Right…” he muttered, a bit thrown off. “But the KitchenAid… where is it?”
“Packed away,” I said lightly, reaching for the old hand mixer. “This works just fine. No need to use something so expensive if I don’t have to, right?”
He seemed uncomfortable but didn’t press further. That was when I knew I was onto something.
Phase Two of my plan came the next weekend: the infamous dinner party. Normally, I would spend hours preparing some extravagant meal with Dave’s luxury groceries. But this time? No chance.
Instead, I sent a message to all our friends, telling them we were switching things up. From now on, dinner parties at our house were going to be potluck-style. Everyone was thrilled, thinking it was a fun, laid-back idea.
Everyone, but Dave.
When I told him about the potluck, his face drained of color. “You did what?” he practically choked. “You’re making our friends bring food?”
I smiled innocently. “Of course! You didn’t want me wasting your money on expensive groceries, so I figured potluck was the best option. Everyone’s really excited about it.”
Dave looked horrified. “But… what will they think? We’re supposed to be hosting! I thought we were doing the Wagyu this weekend!”
I leaned in, keeping my voice calm. “Well, Dave, I didn’t want to spend your money on things like Wagyu again. This seemed like a much better idea. Everyone can contribute, and we still get to have fun.”
He huffed, shaking his head, but there wasn’t much he could say. He’d put himself in this position, after all.
The night of the potluck arrived, and our friends showed up with casseroles, salads, and even a couple of bottles of wine. The atmosphere was casual, warm, and lively; everyone was having a great time. Everyone except Dave, who sat in the corner, picking at his food and sulking like a kid who’d been grounded.
At one point, someone made a passing comment, “Wow, Dave, no Wagyu tonight? What’s the occasion?”
Dave’s face turned bright red, and he mumbled something about “changing things up.” I couldn’t help but bite back a smile.
After the party, once everyone had left, I decided it was time for phase three. I sat Dave down at the kitchen table, and with a calm but firm voice, I pulled out the receipts. Six months’ worth of grocery bills, each with a breakdown of what he had specifically requested versus what I would have normally bought.
He looked confused at first, then curious. “What’s all this?”
I pushed the pile toward him. “These are our grocery receipts. For the past six months, I’ve been tracking how much we’ve been spending on your luxury items.”
He glanced at the first few, his face growing more serious. “I didn’t realize you were keeping track like this.”
“Oh, I wasn’t — until you started accusing me of wasting your money,” I said, leaning back in my chair. “See, while you were enjoying your A5 Wagyu and truffle oil, I was the one who had to figure out how to make the budget work. And it turns out, your little ‘extras’ have been costing us an additional $3,500 over six months.”
His eyes widened. “Wait… $3,500?” he whispered, looking pale.
“Exactly. You were so quick to accuse me of being wasteful, when really, I’ve been going along with your extravagant taste this whole time.”
He sat there in stunned silence, flipping through the receipts as the realization hit him.
“And just to make things clear,” I added, sliding one last paper across the table, “here’s the bill.”
He blinked at the paper, confused. “What’s this?”
“An itemized list of all the extra things you requested over the past six months. Since it’s your money, you can pay me back for all the luxury groceries you insisted on.”
He stared at the total, eyes wide, and then looked back at me. “I… I didn’t realize it was that much.”
I stood up, crossing my arms as I looked down at him. “Maybe next time, you’ll think twice before accusing me of wasting money.”
For a moment, Dave just sat there, his face a mixture of embarrassment and guilt. Then, finally, he looked up at me, his voice soft and sincere. “Sarah, I’m sorry. I had no idea how much it added up. I didn’t mean to make you feel like I didn’t appreciate you… or what you do for us.”
I nodded, feeling a bit of the tension ease. “I know you didn’t, Dave. But from now on, we’re going to do this together. No more of this ‘your money’ nonsense. We’re partners in this.”
He agreed, and true to his word, Dave’s been a lot more mindful ever since. No more A5 Wagyu, no more $600 coffee beans. We now stick to a budget that we both agreed on. And the best part? We’re actually happier for it.
So, was my revenge petty? Maybe. But did he deserve it? Absolutely.
What do you think? Did I handle things correctly or was my revenge plan a little overboard? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
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